{"id":730,"date":"2021-03-10T14:21:29","date_gmt":"2021-03-10T13:21:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=730"},"modified":"2021-03-10T14:37:05","modified_gmt":"2021-03-10T13:37:05","slug":"onemli-sorular3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=730","title":{"rendered":"#\u00f6nemli sorular3"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Bebe\u011fin her d\u00f6nemi anne-babaya da kendi o d\u00f6nemlerini \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Buradan yola \u00e7\u0131karak, bebe\u011fin do\u011fumu ile birlikte anne-baba da belki \u015funlar\u0131 merak edebilir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acaba onlar\u0131n do\u011fumlar\u0131 nas\u0131l olmu\u015f?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0130simlerini kim koymu\u015f? Neden o isim konmu\u015f?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nas\u0131l birer bebeklermi\u015f?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Onlarla daha \u00e7ok kim ilgilenmi\u015f? \u0130lk bak\u0131m verilen zamanda evde yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan birileri var m\u0131ym\u0131\u015f, kimler varm\u0131\u015f? Varsa\/yoksa bu durumu anne-baba nas\u0131l ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Annelerinden s\u00fct emmi\u015fler mi, ne kadar emmi\u015fler, hi\u00e7 emmemi\u015fler mi, bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 m\u0131 emzirmi\u015f, t\u00fcm bu s\u00fcre\u00e7ler nas\u0131l ge\u00e7mi\u015f, uykular\u0131, i\u015ftahlar\u0131 nas\u0131lm\u0131\u015f?
…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bunlar vb. sorular ile olas\u0131 cevaplar hayat ak\u0131\u015f\u0131nda anl\u0131k de\u011fi\u015fiklikler yaratmayacak, ters giden bir \u015feyler varsa bunlar\u0131 bir anda d\u00fczeltmeyecektir. Yine de \u00f6nemlidir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu \u00e7abalar\u0131n hepsi b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckl\u00fc bireysel bir \u00f6yk\u00fc yazabilmek i\u00e7in, bug\u00fcn bebekle birlikte ya\u015fananlar\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in, \u00f6z fark\u0131ndal\u0131k i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli olabilecek ad\u0131mlar. Zaten \u201cDe\u011fi\u015fim hi\u00e7bir zaman birdenbire ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmez. Bu, bizim \u00e7abalamam\u0131z gereken bir \u015feydir.\u201d (D. Siegel, Ak\u0131lg\u00f6z\u00fc)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ne\u015fe Karabekir\u2019in anneler i\u00e7in yazd\u0131klar\u0131 ise, hi\u00e7bir deneyimin silinmedi\u011fini, t\u00fcm deneyimlerin beden ve zihin haf\u0131zas\u0131nda bar\u0131nd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bize tekrar hat\u0131rlat\u0131yor.
Ya\u015fananlar bir yerlerde duruyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Daniel Siegel\u2019in bu kitab\u0131nda belirtti\u011fi bir\u00e7ok g\u00fczel \u015feyden bir tanesi de, kendimize kafay\u0131 takarak (kitaba ad\u0131n\u0131 veren) \u2018ak\u0131lg\u00f6z\u00fc\u2019m\u00fcz\u00fc geli\u015ftirdi\u011fimizde bunun bizi kendimizle daha fazla de\u011fil de daha az ilgilenmemiz i\u00e7in \u00f6zg\u00fcr b\u0131rakacak olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Yani duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerimizin fark\u0131nda olup onlar\u0131n bask\u0131s\u0131 alt\u0131nda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyam\u0131zda daha net olmaya ba\u015flar\u0131z ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyalar\u0131n\u0131 da daha iyi kavrayabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00fcnyaya yeni gelen, i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131 yeni yeni olu\u015fmaya ba\u015flayan bir bebe\u011fe bak\u0131m vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken yeti\u015fkinlerin kendilerine de alan a\u00e7mas\u0131 bunlar nedeniyle \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siegel bir de diyor ki, \u201cAra\u015ft\u0131rmalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bize ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcvencede oldu\u011funun en iyi g\u00f6stergesinin, kendi \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzun \u00f6yk\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc uyumlu bi\u00e7imde anlatma yetene\u011fimiz oldu\u011funu ortaya koymu\u015ftur.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foto\u011fraf, Simone Hutsch, Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bebe\u011fin her d\u00f6nemi anne-babaya da kendi o d\u00f6nemlerini \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Buradan yola \u00e7\u0131karak, bebe\u011fin do\u011fumu ile birlikte anne-baba da belki \u015funlar\u0131 merak edebilir: Acaba onlar\u0131n do\u011fumlar\u0131 nas\u0131l olmu\u015f? \u0130simlerini kim koymu\u015f? Neden o isim konmu\u015f? Nas\u0131l birer bebeklermi\u015f? Onlarla daha \u00e7ok kim ilgilenmi\u015f? \u0130lk bak\u0131m verilen zamanda evde yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan birileri var m\u0131ym\u0131\u015f, kimler varm\u0131\u015f? Varsa\/yoksa […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":734,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=730"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":741,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730\/revisions\/741"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/734"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=730"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=730"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=730"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}