{"id":671,"date":"2021-01-25T12:31:12","date_gmt":"2021-01-25T11:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=671"},"modified":"2021-01-25T12:35:25","modified_gmt":"2021-01-25T11:35:25","slug":"guzel-sozler2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=671","title":{"rendered":"#g\u00fczel s\u00f6zler2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-673\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post42.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Burada paradoks, bir durumun bar\u0131nd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7eli\u015fki anlam\u0131nda kullan\u0131l\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6rne\u011fin, \u00e7ocuklar bir d\u00f6nem bir objeye \u00e7ok ba\u011flan\u0131rlar, o obje bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 i\u00e7in sadece bir kuma\u015f par\u00e7as\u0131yken \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u015feyi temsil eder. Sanki \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in o hem d\u0131\u015far\u0131dad\u0131r hem de i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r. Burada kritik olan ona \u2018sadece bir kuma\u015f par\u00e7as\u0131\u2019 gibi yakla\u015f\u0131lmamas\u0131, durumun oldu\u011fu \u015fekliyle kabul edilmesi olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Oyun da bir ara alan olmas\u0131yla bir \u00e7eli\u015fki bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r: Ne ger\u00e7ek ne sahtedir. Burada kritik olan da, ger\u00e7ek olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da hat\u0131rlayarak \u2018bu sadece bir oyun\u2019 demeden, \u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden \u00f6zg\u00fcrce sa\u00e7malayabilmek olacakt\u0131r.<br>Winnicott yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k ile oyunu \u00e7ok ili\u015fkilendirir: Yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k tam olarak bu ara alan\u0131n kullan\u0131labilmesiyle alakal\u0131d\u0131r. Freud da ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde, yeti\u015fkinlikteki yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00e7ocukluktaki oyunun bir devam\u0131, bir ikamesi oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott\u2019a g\u00f6re akl\u0131 devreye sokup paradoksu \u00e7\u00f6zmek paradoksun de\u011ferinin yitirilmesine neden olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu konu bana \u015f\u00f6yle \u015feyler de \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>\u00d6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocuk her g\u00fcn biraz daha ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zla\u015f\u0131rken hem anneden uzak olmak isteyecek hem de uzakla\u015ft\u0131ktan k\u0131sa bir s\u00fcre sonra ko\u015farak anneye geri gelecektir. Sanki iki kar\u015f\u0131t kuvvet \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00e7ekiyor gibidir. Burada da arada kalma durumunu kabul etmek ve bunu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmamak \u00f6nemlidir.<\/li><li>Veya mesela bir ergen hem kendi istedi\u011fini yapmak isteyecektir, hem de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ne dedi\u011fi onun i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nem olacakt\u0131r, bu da o d\u00f6nemle birlikte gelen \u00e7eli\u015fkili bir durumdur. Bunu hemen bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015ft\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan, bu paradoksun ya\u015fatacaklar\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fayarak, bunlar\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015farak i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7ebilmek o ergenin yeti\u015fkinlik d\u00f6nemi i\u00e7in \u00f6nemli olacakt\u0131r.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Ebeveynler de kendilerini \u00e7eli\u015fki bar\u0131nd\u0131ran durumlarda bulunabilirler, \u00f6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocu\u011fun hem b\u00fcy\u00fcmesini isterken hem de yanlar\u0131ndan hi\u00e7 gitmemesini isteyebilirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>T\u00fcm bu gibi durumlarda bir taraf\u0131 yok etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak ya da g\u00f6rmezden gelmek, yokmu\u015f gibi davranmak yerine iki tarafa da kucak a\u00e7mak, her iki durumda neler ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zlemlemek ilerleyebilmek i\u00e7in \u00e7ok k\u0131ymetli bir tutum olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, Kadir Celep, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Burada paradoks, bir durumun bar\u0131nd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7eli\u015fki anlam\u0131nda kullan\u0131l\u0131yor. \u00d6rne\u011fin, \u00e7ocuklar bir d\u00f6nem bir objeye \u00e7ok ba\u011flan\u0131rlar, o obje bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 i\u00e7in sadece bir kuma\u015f par\u00e7as\u0131yken \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u015feyi temsil eder. Sanki \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in o hem d\u0131\u015far\u0131dad\u0131r hem de i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r. Burada kritik olan ona \u2018sadece bir kuma\u015f par\u00e7as\u0131\u2019 gibi yakla\u015f\u0131lmamas\u0131, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":674,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[26],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/671"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=671"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/671\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":675,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/671\/revisions\/675"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/674"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=671"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=671"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=671"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}