{"id":661,"date":"2021-01-15T13:41:30","date_gmt":"2021-01-15T12:41:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=661"},"modified":"2021-01-15T13:41:30","modified_gmt":"2021-01-15T12:41:30","slug":"hayir-demek3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=661","title":{"rendered":"#&#8221;hay\u0131r&#8221; demek3"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-662\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-663\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post40.2.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>(39\u2019dan devam)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott hay\u0131r meselesini kolayl\u0131kla halletmenin temelinde \u2018mutlu olma\u2019n\u0131n yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yler. Ki\u015fi mutlu oldu\u011funda kendisiyle ve \u00e7evredeki d\u00fcnyayla uyu\u015fan bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imi oturtmas\u0131 daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr ona g\u00f6re. Buna ek olarak, mutsuz annelerin ise bebek bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n mutluluk veren k\u0131s\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 abartmaya yatk\u0131n olduklar\u0131n\u0131 belirtir.<br>Mutsuz ki\u015filerin \u201cBazen de hay\u0131r demelerinin sebebi sadece canlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131kk\u0131n olmas\u0131d\u0131r, ve tabii ki bu bir i\u015fe yaramaz.\u201d (Ebeveynlerle Sohbet, sf. 25).<br>En \u00f6nemlisi bak\u0131m verenin kendi zihninde neye izin verip neye izin vermeyece\u011fi konusunda net olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu konuda karma\u015fa ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ayn\u0131s\u0131 bebe\u011fin zihninde de ya\u015fanacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yine de hi\u00e7bir \u015fey bir bebe\u011fi ya da k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocu\u011fu olan bir anneyi s\u00fcrekli tetikte olma g\u00f6revinden kurtarmayacakt\u0131r, bu ebeveynlikle birlikte gelir. Bu tetikte olma hali de ebeveyne a\u011f\u0131r bir gerginlik y\u00fckleyebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130lk ba\u015flarda bebek bak\u0131m\u0131 ve ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmazd\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk ebeveynlerin denetimine gerek duymadan hareket edebilece\u011fi g\u00fcn gelene, kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imi olu\u015fturana kadar \u201chay\u0131r\u201d \u00f6nemini s\u00fcrd\u00fcrecek, bak\u0131m verenlerin koydu\u011fu yasaklar varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 koruyacakt\u0131r. Bunlar \u00e7ocu\u011fun i\u00e7inde bulundu\u011fu d\u00fcnyay\u0131 tan\u0131mas\u0131n\u0131, kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izebilmesini ve kendini korumay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmesini sa\u011flar.<br>Her geli\u015fimsel a\u015famada, o d\u00f6neme ait \u00f6zelliklerin ebeveynlerde de benzer dinamikleri tetikleyebilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrsek, bu a\u015famada da bak\u0131m verenin kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 ile ilgili meseleleri sahneye \u00e7\u0131kabilir ve bunlar bebek\/\u00e7ocuk ile kurulan ili\u015fkide belirleyici bir rol oynuyor olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n sonuna k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendilerine hay\u0131r denmesinden ho\u015fland\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 da ekliyor ve \u201c\u00c7ocuklar her zaman yumu\u015fak nesnelerle oynamak istemezler, ta\u015flar\u0131, sopalar\u0131 ve sert zeminleri de severler; ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde, kucaklanmaktan ho\u015fland\u0131klar\u0131 kadar onlara nereye gideceklerinin s\u00f6ylenmesinden de ho\u015flan\u0131rlar.\u201d diyor (sf. 32).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cHay\u0131r\u201d deme, s\u0131n\u0131r \u00e7izme konular\u0131nda bu seferlik burada duruyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, Pavel Nekoranec, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(39\u2019dan devam) Winnicott hay\u0131r meselesini kolayl\u0131kla halletmenin temelinde \u2018mutlu olma\u2019n\u0131n yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yler. Ki\u015fi mutlu oldu\u011funda kendisiyle ve \u00e7evredeki d\u00fcnyayla uyu\u015fan bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imi oturtmas\u0131 daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr ona g\u00f6re. Buna ek olarak, mutsuz annelerin ise bebek bak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n mutluluk veren k\u0131s\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 abartmaya yatk\u0131n olduklar\u0131n\u0131 belirtir.Mutsuz ki\u015filerin \u201cBazen de hay\u0131r demelerinin sebebi sadece canlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131kk\u0131n olmas\u0131d\u0131r, ve tabii [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":665,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[25],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=661"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":666,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/661\/revisions\/666"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/665"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=661"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=661"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=661"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}