{"id":650,"date":"2021-01-13T11:40:42","date_gmt":"2021-01-13T10:40:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=650"},"modified":"2021-01-13T11:47:05","modified_gmt":"2021-01-13T10:47:05","slug":"hayir-demek2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=650","title":{"rendered":"#&#8221;hay\u0131r&#8221; demek2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-658\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/post39.1-2.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>(38inci posttan devam)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011fun etrafta olan biteni kavrama becerisinin geli\u015fmesi ve izin verilenlerle verilmeyenleri ay\u0131rt edebilmesi ile birlikte ikinci a\u015fama gelir ve ahlaki do\u011fru-yanl\u0131\u015flardan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc de\u011fil sadece bebe\u011fi korumak i\u00e7in bir \u015fekilde bebe\u011fe \u201chay\u0131r\u201d fikri ifade edilmeye ba\u015flan\u0131r. Bu a\u015famada dil devreye girmi\u015f, d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyaya s\u00f6ylenen \u201chay\u0131r\u201d bebe\u011fe s\u00f6ylenmeye ba\u015flanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu a\u015famada bak\u0131m verenler arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile yava\u015f yava\u015f bebek ger\u00e7eklikle, ger\u00e7eklik de bebekle tan\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bu d\u00f6nemde bebek d\u00fcnyay\u0131 \u201chay\u0131r\u201dlarla, yasaklarla tan\u0131yabilir. Winnicott burada iki alternatiften bahseder: 1) Evet denilenlerin say\u0131 ve \u00e7e\u015fitlili\u011finde art\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131 2) Sadece \u201chay\u0131r\u201dlar\u0131n olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott\u2019a g\u00f6re \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyay\u0131 sadece \u201chay\u0131r\u201dlarla tan\u0131mas\u0131 \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131kt\u0131r ve bu, annenin \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00fcvenli\u011fini sadece tehlike durumuna dikkat \u00e7ekerek sa\u011flayabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmesinden kaynaklan\u0131yor olabilir. \u201cEvet\u201d denilenlerin say\u0131ca ve \u00e7e\u015fit olarak fazla oldu\u011fu yeti\u015ftirme tarz\u0131nda ise \u201chay\u0131r\u201d\u0131n zemininde \u201cevet\u201d vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu a\u015famada bebe\u011fin ve annenin hislerinde de birtak\u0131m de\u011fi\u015fiklikler olur: \u0130lk ba\u015flarda sakin olan, g\u00fcven duyan bebek \u00e7ok ge\u00e7meden sald\u0131rganla\u015f\u0131r ve anneye kar\u015f\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler geli\u015ftirir. Anne de ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde, bebe\u011fine kar\u015f\u0131 hi\u00e7 de olumlu duygular beslemeyebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>D\u0131\u015f ger\u00e7eklik devreye girdi\u011finde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmesi gereken \u00e7ok fazla \u015fey ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. Annenin ba\u015fka, baban\u0131n ba\u015fka, b\u00fcy\u00fckanne-babalar\u0131n ba\u015fka, varsa yard\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131n ba\u015fka yasaklar\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00dcst\u00fcne \u00fcstl\u00fck her birinin kan\u0131tlanamayacak \u00e7e\u015fitli inan\u00e7lar\u0131 da olabilir.<br>T\u00fcm bunlar nedeniyle \u00e7e\u015fitli karma\u015falar ya\u015fan\u0131r ancak bebekler bir \u015fekilde bunun \u00fcstesinden gelirler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bundan sonra \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc a\u015famaya ge\u00e7ilir: \u00c7ocu\u011fa s\u00f6ylenen \u201chay\u0131r\u201d bir a\u00e7\u0131klamayla birlikte s\u00f6ylenir ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun i\u015fbirli\u011fi yapmas\u0131 beklenir. B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015fkinlerden onlar\u0131n bildiklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcklerini \u00f6\u011frenmeye ve art\u0131k onlara sunulan sebeplere kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilmeye ba\u015flarlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu ge\u00e7i\u015flerin ne zaman ve nas\u0131l olaca\u011f\u0131 her \u00e7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fimi farkl\u0131 oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in \u00e7ocu\u011fa ve de ebeveyne ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Kaynak kitap: Ebeveynlerle Sohbet)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S\u0131n\u0131r koymak gerekli ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r, \u00e7ocu\u011fun bu gezegende var olabilmesini kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r, ancak kolay bir mesele de\u011fildir.<br>Biraz daha devam edece\u011fim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, \u0130zuddin Helmi Adnan, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(38inci posttan devam) \u00c7ocu\u011fun etrafta olan biteni kavrama becerisinin geli\u015fmesi ve izin verilenlerle verilmeyenleri ay\u0131rt edebilmesi ile birlikte ikinci a\u015fama gelir ve ahlaki do\u011fru-yanl\u0131\u015flardan \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc de\u011fil sadece bebe\u011fi korumak i\u00e7in bir \u015fekilde bebe\u011fe \u201chay\u0131r\u201d fikri ifade edilmeye ba\u015flan\u0131r. Bu a\u015famada dil devreye girmi\u015f, d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyaya s\u00f6ylenen \u201chay\u0131r\u201d bebe\u011fe s\u00f6ylenmeye ba\u015flanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bu a\u015famada bak\u0131m verenler arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":652,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[25],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/650"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=650"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/650\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":660,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/650\/revisions\/660"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/652"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=650"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=650"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=650"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}