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Hamilelikte ba\u015flamakla birlikte, ailede baba kendisini d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kalm\u0131\u015f hissedebilir. Bebek onun da bebe\u011fidir ama geli\u015fimi annenin bedeninde ba\u015flar, hamilelik boyunca annenin hormonlar\u0131 ve modu de\u011fi\u015fir, anne ve bebek farkl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fimdedirler. Do\u011fum sonras\u0131 da buna benzer, anne ve bebek farkl\u0131 ve yo\u011fun bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7ine girerler. Bunlar anneli\u011fi \u00f6nemli ve farkl\u0131 bir konuma getirse de, baba i\u015flevinin \u00f6nemsiz oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na asla gelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Baban\u0131n da baba olma ser\u00fcveni ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, o da baba olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenecektir. Kendi bebekli\u011fini o da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnecek, kendi ailesinden getirdikleriyle o da y\u00fczle\u015fecek, \u00e7e\u015fitli konularda o da zorlanacakt\u0131r. Bunlara ek olarak, anne-bebek aras\u0131nda olu\u015fan ba\u011f nedeniyle, bireysel \u00f6yk\u00fcs\u00fcndeki ‘d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kalma’, ‘\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc olma’ an\u0131lar\u0131 da canlanabilir, \u00e7e\u015fitli dinamikleri tetiklenebilir. Bunlar\u0131n da baban\u0131n ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7e\u015fitli etkileri olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Psikanalist Yavuz Erten, Baba \u0130\u015flevi\u2019nde \u201cAnne-baba-\u00e7ocuk \u00fc\u00e7geni e\u015fkenar bir \u00fc\u00e7gen de\u011fildir. Baba di\u011fer iki k\u00f6\u015feye uzak k\u00f6\u015fededir.\u201d der.
Baba olmadan \u00fc\u00e7gen tamamlanmaz, ailenin \u00f6nemli bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r, bebe\u011fin babas\u0131d\u0131r, annenin s\u0131rt\u0131n\u0131 yaslayabilece\u011fi, sar\u0131labilece\u011fi ki\u015fidir, anneyle sorumluluklar\u0131 payla\u015fmas\u0131, bebe\u011fin bak\u0131m\u0131nda rol almas\u0131 da \u00f6nemlidir ancak olu\u015fan yeni d\u00fczende konumlanmas\u0131 daha farkl\u0131d\u0131r.
Psikanalist Refhan Balkan da ayn\u0131 kitapta \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00f6yler: \u201cAnne g\u00fcne\u015ftir, \u0131s\u0131t\u0131r, ayd\u0131nlat\u0131r, sarar sarmalar; baba ise r\u00fczg\u00e2rd\u0131r, g\u00fcne\u015fin bo\u011fucu yak\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan koruyand\u0131r.\u201d
Baba farkl\u0131d\u0131r, farkt\u0131r, \u201cruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n ilk ek g\u0131das\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d Bebe\u011fin ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131na farkl\u0131 bir unsur katma konusunda ve d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyay\u0131 alg\u0131lamas\u0131nda kritik bir role sahiptir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acaba her baba bu \u00fc\u00e7gende \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc olmakla, bir s\u00fcre d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kalmakla ilgili ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, ne hisseder? Acaba bunlar\u0131n her baban\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndaki izd\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmleri neler olur, i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131 ona neler f\u0131s\u0131ldar?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not: Burada bir ‘baba i\u015flevi’nden bahsetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr; yani biyolojik baban\u0131n sahnede olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumda \u2018anne olmayan\u2019\u0131n, bebe\u011fi ikili ili\u015fkiden \u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ili\u015fkiye \u00e7ekecek, anneden farkl\u0131 bir fig\u00fcr\u00fcn sahneye dahil olmas\u0131 bebe\u011fin ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bu etkileri sa\u011flayabilir.
Fakat elbette, biyolojik baban\u0131n yoklu\u011funun annenin ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ayr\u0131 ayr\u0131 etkileri olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foto\u011fraf, Ricardo Gomez Angel, Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hamilelikte ba\u015flamakla birlikte, ailede baba kendisini d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kalm\u0131\u015f hissedebilir. Bebek onun da bebe\u011fidir ama geli\u015fimi annenin bedeninde ba\u015flar, hamilelik boyunca annenin hormonlar\u0131 ve modu de\u011fi\u015fir, anne ve bebek farkl\u0131 bir ileti\u015fimdedirler. Do\u011fum sonras\u0131 da buna benzer, anne ve bebek farkl\u0131 ve yo\u011fun bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7ine girerler. Bunlar anneli\u011fi \u00f6nemli ve farkl\u0131 bir konuma getirse de, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":562,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[15],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/557"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=557"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/557\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":563,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/557\/revisions\/563"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/562"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=557"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=557"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=557"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}