{"id":548,"date":"2020-12-12T21:07:07","date_gmt":"2020-12-12T20:07:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=548"},"modified":"2020-12-12T21:07:08","modified_gmt":"2020-12-12T20:07:08","slug":"ebeveyn3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=548","title":{"rendered":"ebeveyn3"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-550\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post22.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7ocukla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim ve etkile\u015fim ile ilgili okuduk\u00e7a, ebeveynin sanki bir terapist gibi \u00e7ocu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli anlamas\u0131, ona s\u00fcrekli terap\u00f6tik, yani iyile\u015ftirici bir \u015fekilde yakla\u015fmas\u0131 gerekiyormu\u015f gibi bir anlam \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131labilir. Ancak ebeveynlerin g\u00f6revi birer psikoterapiste d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmek de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocuk evde bir psikoterapiste de\u011fil, bir anneye, bir babaya ihtiya\u00e7 duyar.<br>\u00c7ocuk hastaland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, yani ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n do\u011fas\u0131nda olan \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zemedi\u011finde ne oldu\u011funu anlamak i\u00e7in birine dan\u0131\u015fmak, birinden destek almak yetersiz olundu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelmez. Zihnin do\u011fas\u0131 gere\u011fi, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bakan bir g\u00f6z, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan dinleyen bir kulak neler oldu\u011funu daha rahat anlayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Psikoterapide iki ki\u015fi vard\u0131r, bir ki\u015fi konu\u015fulur. Terapist de t\u00fcm zihniyle, t\u00fcm benli\u011fiyle, t\u00fcm ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131yla, kanl\u0131 canl\u0131 oradad\u0131r ama bireysel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 ve fark\u0131ndal\u0131klar\u0131 sayesinde bunu kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinden ay\u0131rmay\u0131 bilir. Terapi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn k\u0131lan \u015feylerden birisi de belli bir s\u0131kl\u0131kta, belli bir s\u00fcre boyunca g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fclmesidir. Bu, \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcre bir arada olan anne-baba-\u00e7ocuk ili\u015fkisi ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lamaz bile.<br>Anne-baban\u0131n kendi i\u00e7 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131ndan haberdar olmas\u0131 ve bu sayede bunlar\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na yans\u0131tmamalar\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fa alan tan\u0131malar\u0131 elbette \u00f6nemli ancak bu s\u00fcrekli sakin kalmak, s\u00fcrekli \u00e7ocu\u011fu anlamak \u015feklinde alg\u0131lanmamal\u0131. Zaten bu m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de de\u011fil, terapist olan anne-babalar i\u00e7in de m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ebeveynlerin geli\u015fimle ilgili de her \u015feyi bilmek zorunda olmad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlamalar\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bebekler ve \u00e7ocuklar geli\u015fim y\u00f6n\u00fcnde do\u011fu\u015ftan gelen bir e\u011filime sahiptir ve ebeveynler anlasa da anlamasa da geli\u015fim s\u00fcrecinde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan \u015feylerin bir\u00e7o\u011fu ger\u00e7ekle\u015fir (Winnicott, sf. 94).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu geli\u015fim s\u00fcrecinde \u00e7ocu\u011fun ihtiyac\u0131 ise anne-babas\u0131n\u0131n ona &#8216;m\u00fckemmel&#8217; de\u011fil &#8216;yeterince iyi&#8217; ebeveynlikle e\u015flik etmesi.<br>Bunu yar\u0131na b\u0131rak\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, Andrej Lisakov, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c7ocukla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim ve etkile\u015fim ile ilgili okuduk\u00e7a, ebeveynin sanki bir terapist gibi \u00e7ocu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli anlamas\u0131, ona s\u00fcrekli terap\u00f6tik, yani iyile\u015ftirici bir \u015fekilde yakla\u015fmas\u0131 gerekiyormu\u015f gibi bir anlam \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131labilir. Ancak ebeveynlerin g\u00f6revi birer psikoterapiste d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmek de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocuk evde bir psikoterapiste de\u011fil, bir anneye, bir babaya ihtiya\u00e7 duyar.\u00c7ocuk hastaland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, yani ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n do\u011fas\u0131nda olan \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zemedi\u011finde ne [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":549,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=548"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":551,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/548\/revisions\/551"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/549"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=548"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=548"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=548"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}