{"id":523,"date":"2020-12-09T12:35:04","date_gmt":"2020-12-09T11:35:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=523"},"modified":"2020-12-09T12:35:04","modified_gmt":"2020-12-09T11:35:04","slug":"anne2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=523","title":{"rendered":"anne2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-524\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-525\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post19.2.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Yo\u011funlu\u011fu zaman i\u00e7erisinde de\u011fi\u015fse de, annelerin mahremiyeti\/\u00f6zel alan\u0131 \u00e7ocuk taraf\u0131ndan ihlal edilmektedir. \u00c7ocuk sanki bitmek bilmeyecek bir aray\u0131\u015ftad\u0131r ve bulduklar\u0131 hi\u00e7bir zaman yeterli de\u011fildir.<br>Winnicott annenin en derinlerdeki kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuk taraf\u0131ndan istila edilmesi ve annenin bu sebeple ya\u015fayabilecekleri hakk\u0131nda \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;\u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk tam da annesinin saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyi istemektedir. E\u011fer ortada bir s\u0131r varsa mutlaka bulunmal\u0131 ve ortaya d\u00f6k\u00fclmelidir. Annenin \u00e7antas\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na gelenleri bilir.&#8221;<br>&#8220;Bana kal\u0131rsa bu konu anne babalara, ama \u00f6zellike annelere s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 veren \u015feylerle \u00e7ok yak\u0131ndan ilgili.&#8221; (sf. 56)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Her \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc, de\u011fi\u015fik gelenekleri vard\u0131r ama k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n annelerin s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 saklad\u0131klar\u0131 yerin merkezini ele ge\u00e7irme y\u00f6n\u00fcndeki ola\u011fan\u00fcst\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc e\u011filimleri hi\u00e7 de\u011fi\u015fmez. Sorulmas\u0131 gereken soru \u015fudur: Bir anne, \u00e7ocu\u011fu temel bir unsurdan, yani &#8216;annenin ula\u015f\u0131labilir oldu\u011fu duygusu&#8217;ndan yoksun b\u0131rakmaks\u0131z\u0131n kendisini ba\u015far\u0131yla savunabilir ve s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 saklayabilir mi? Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta \u00e7ocuk anneye tamamen sahiptir ve sahip olunmak ile ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olmak aras\u0131nda annenin ula\u015f\u0131labilir olabilece\u011fi bir orta yol kesinlikle olmal\u0131d\u0131r.&#8221; (sf. 57)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBana kal\u0131rsa annelere ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 ac\u0131lar\u0131 ifade etme olana\u011f\u0131 vererek yard\u0131m edilebilir. S\u00f6ze d\u00f6k\u00fclemeyen k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, arkas\u0131ndaki sevgiyi zehirler.&#8221; (sf. 57)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131yla temas etmelerini sa\u011flaman\u0131n annelere yard\u0131mc\u0131 oldu\u011funu fark ettim. Yard\u0131ma ihtiyac\u0131 olan kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in annelerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan nefret etmelerine yol a\u00e7an temel sebeplerin bir listesini yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.&#8221; (sf. 58)<br>(S\u00f6z konusu liste Winnicott&#8217;un &#8216;Kar\u015f\u0131aktar\u0131mda Nefret&#8217; makalesinde bulunuyor, bundan daha sonra bahsedece\u011fim.).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Annenin akl\u0131nda her zaman keskin bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce vard\u0131r; e\u011fer ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta bebe\u011fin bak\u0131m\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olursa hayat\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck bir b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde bunun bedelini \u00f6deyecektir ama aksine g\u00f6revini ba\u015far\u0131yla yerine getirdi\u011finde orada minnettarl\u0131k beklemesi i\u00e7in bir sebep yoktur.&#8221; (sf. 58)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, Jason Leung, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yo\u011funlu\u011fu zaman i\u00e7erisinde de\u011fi\u015fse de, annelerin mahremiyeti\/\u00f6zel alan\u0131 \u00e7ocuk taraf\u0131ndan ihlal edilmektedir. \u00c7ocuk sanki bitmek bilmeyecek bir aray\u0131\u015ftad\u0131r ve bulduklar\u0131 hi\u00e7bir zaman yeterli de\u011fildir.Winnicott annenin en derinlerdeki kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuk taraf\u0131ndan istila edilmesi ve annenin bu sebeple ya\u015fayabilecekleri hakk\u0131nda \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor: &#8220;\u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuk tam da annesinin saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyi istemektedir. 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