{"id":503,"date":"2020-12-07T12:52:01","date_gmt":"2020-12-07T11:52:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=503"},"modified":"2020-12-07T14:07:26","modified_gmt":"2020-12-07T13:07:26","slug":"anne-baba1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=503","title":{"rendered":"anne-baba1"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-505\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.2-1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Post16.3.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Annelik-babal\u0131k s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda bebe\u011fi sevmekten ba\u015fka bir se\u00e7enek oldu\u011fu pek d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmeyebilir ancak:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Bir\u00e7ok annenin bebe\u011fini do\u011far do\u011fmaz sevemediklerini biliyor musunuz? Bu kad\u0131nlar bir \u00fcvey annenin hissedebilece\u011fine benzer \u015fekillerde kendilerini k\u00f6t\u00fc hissederler. Bebeklerini seviyormu\u015f gibi yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar ama bunu ba\u015faramazlar. Halbuki sevginin birden bire ortaya \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, aksine zamanla geli\u015fti\u011fini \u00f6nceden bilseler bu durumla ba\u015f etmeleri kolayla\u015f\u0131rd\u0131.&#8221; (Winnicott, Ebeveynlerle Sohbet, sf. 9)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Sevmemenin de \u00f6tesinde, annenin bebe\u011finden nefret etmesi hi\u00e7 de az rastlanan bir durum de\u011fildir. Yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenleri vekaleten yap\u0131yormu\u015f gibi hisseden ama asl\u0131nda bebe\u011fine olduk\u00e7a iyi bakan s\u0131radan kad\u0131nlardan s\u00f6z ediyorum.&#8221; (sf. 10)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Bebe\u011fine zarar verece\u011fi korkusuyla ya\u015fayan, anla\u015f\u0131lmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 anlatamayan pek \u00e7ok anne tan\u0131yorum.&#8221; (sf. 10)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;\u0130nsan do\u011fas\u0131n\u0131n derinlerinde gizli kalan \u00e7ok \u015fey vard\u0131r ve ben kendisi i\u00e7in her \u015fey \u00e7ok basit ve p\u00fcr\u00fczs\u00fcz olan, t\u00fcm cevaplar\u0131 bilen, hi\u00e7 teredd\u00fct ya\u015famayan bir annenin \u00e7ocu\u011fu olmak yerine insan olmaya ili\u015fkin t\u00fcm i\u00e7sel \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalara sahip bir annenin \u00e7ocu\u011fu olmay\u0131 tercih ederim.&#8221; (sf. 10)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Herkesi ve her deneyimi hep \u00e7ok g\u00fczel kapsayan Winnicott, bunlar\u0131 iyi ki g\u00f6zlemlemi\u015f, iyi ki yazm\u0131\u015f.<br>Bunlar\u0131 bilmek ebeveynlerin rol yapmalar\u0131n\u0131n gerekmedi\u011fi, olanlar\u0131n kendi haline b\u0131rak\u0131labildi\u011fi, \u00e7\u0131kacak duygular\u0131n kendi ritminde \u00e7\u0131kmalar\u0131na izin verildi\u011fi, her t\u00fcrl\u00fc duygu ifadesinin kabul g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, insan olmakla birlikte gelen \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n sahiplenildi\u011fi, b\u00f6ylece \u00e7ocu\u011fun da ger\u00e7ek duygular\u0131 ile temas edebildi\u011fi, onlar\u0131 ifade edebildi\u011fi ve ya\u015fayabildi\u011fi g\u00fcnlerin ho\u015f kar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131 i\u00e7in bir umut \u0131\u015f\u0131\u011f\u0131 oluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, David Pisnoy, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Annelik-babal\u0131k s\u00f6z konusu oldu\u011funda bebe\u011fi sevmekten ba\u015fka bir se\u00e7enek oldu\u011fu pek d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmeyebilir ancak: &#8220;Bir\u00e7ok annenin bebe\u011fini do\u011far do\u011fmaz sevemediklerini biliyor musunuz? Bu kad\u0131nlar bir \u00fcvey annenin hissedebilece\u011fine benzer \u015fekillerde kendilerini k\u00f6t\u00fc hissederler. Bebeklerini seviyormu\u015f gibi yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar ama bunu ba\u015faramazlar. 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