{"id":394,"date":"2020-11-27T21:18:02","date_gmt":"2020-11-27T20:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=394"},"modified":"2020-11-27T21:18:04","modified_gmt":"2020-11-27T20:18:04","slug":"ebeveyn2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/?p=394","title":{"rendered":"ebeveyn2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"http:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-1024x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-396\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1-620x620.jpg 620w, https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/post7.2.1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6ncelikle, kitapta bahsedilen sohbetler annelerle yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in c\u00fcmleler anneler \u00fczerinden kurulmu\u015ftur ancak ayn\u0131 durum babalar i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott&#8217;un burada \u00fcst\u00fcnde durdu\u011fu nokta \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli. Bir an ne ya\u015fand\u0131ysa ebeveynin o an i\u00e7in elinden gelenin en iyisini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7iziyor.<br>Burada kilit nokta &#8216;tekrar tekrar dinlemek&#8217; k\u0131sm\u0131. Yeterince dinlersek, anlayabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Radikal gelebilir ancak bunu &#8216;k\u00f6t\u00fc&#8217; oldu\u011fu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclen davran\u0131\u015flar i\u00e7in dahi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Herkes her an ruhsall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n el verdi\u011fi \u015fekilde davranmaktad\u0131r ve baz\u0131 anlar ba\u015f etmesi zor olabilir, elden ba\u015fka t\u00fcrl\u00fcs\u00fc gelmeyebilir.<br>Bunu \u00f6zellikle duyarl\u0131 ebeveynlikle birlikte gelen kayg\u0131 ve su\u00e7luluk duygular\u0131 y\u00fckseldi\u011finde hat\u0131rlamak faydal\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Winnicott&#8217;un bu kitapta bahsetti\u011fi annelerin ruhsal a\u00e7\u0131dan nispeten sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 anneler oldu\u011funu bilmek de \u00f6nemli. \u00c7ocu\u011funa s\u00fcrekli k\u00f6t\u00fc davranan ki\u015fi i\u00e7in bile ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olsa da (yani o da kendi ruhsal yap\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131n el verdi\u011fi \u015fekilde davran\u0131yor olsa da) o \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u015fka bir yeti\u015fkin taraf\u0131ndan korunmas\u0131, annenin ise bir tedaviye ba\u015flamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi ger\u00e7e\u011fi tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lmazd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bebeklerin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n neyi neden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n, onlara \u015fefkatle yakla\u015fman\u0131n ne kadar \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu \u00e7ok s\u0131k duyuyoruz, bu \u00e7ok do\u011frudur da, ancak ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde bir anne-baban\u0131n de bir dinleyeninin olmas\u0131, neyi neden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 \u00f6nemlidir ve bu kesinlikle es ge\u00e7ilmemesi gereken bir konudur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<pre class=\"wp-block-preformatted\">Foto\u011fraf, Paul Talbot, <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"http:\/\/www.unsplash.com\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"www.unsplash.com\" target=\"_blank\">Unsplash<\/a>.<\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00d6ncelikle, kitapta bahsedilen sohbetler annelerle yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in c\u00fcmleler anneler \u00fczerinden kurulmu\u015ftur ancak ayn\u0131 durum babalar i\u00e7in de ge\u00e7erlidir. Winnicott&#8217;un burada \u00fcst\u00fcnde durdu\u011fu nokta \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli. Bir an ne ya\u015fand\u0131ysa ebeveynin o an i\u00e7in elinden gelenin en iyisini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7iziyor.Burada kilit nokta &#8216;tekrar tekrar dinlemek&#8217; k\u0131sm\u0131. Yeterince dinlersek, anlayabiliriz. Radikal gelebilir ancak bunu &#8216;k\u00f6t\u00fc&#8217; oldu\u011fu [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":395,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=394"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":397,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/394\/revisions\/397"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/395"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}