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\u201cFark ettim ki \u00e7ocu\u011fum ne yaparsa ben de ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yapacakt\u0131m.
“Bana dokunmaya, benim \u00fczerimden hayata g\u00fcvenmeye mi \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor; ben de ona ve \u00f6tekilere dokunmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facak, kendime g\u00fcvenmenin, ona ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcven vermenin yeni yollar\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131racakt\u0131m.
\u201cDil mi \u00f6\u011freniyor; kendimi ifade meselemi tezgaha \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p ince ince i\u015fleyecek, yeni bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsel ve duygusal dil edinecektim.
\u201cBana isyan edip benden ayr\u0131\u015fmaya, bireyle\u015fmeye mi \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor; annemle ve anne ikamelerimle olan derdim \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131 bu kez tezgaha, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131 e\u015feleyecektim, \u00f6tekine kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k dokular\u0131m\u0131 ay\u0131klayacak, \u00f6tekine dola\u015f\u0131k t\u0131kanm\u0131\u015f damarlar\u0131m\u0131 a\u00e7acak, ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131racak, hem ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde hem de ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenecektim.
\u201cHer \u015feye itiraz edip d\u00fcnyaya “ben” bayra\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7maya m\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor; ben de \u00f6nemli g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm konularda sesimi duyurmaya, r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm\u00fc ispatlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facak, kendimi ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeye odaklanacakt\u0131m.
\u201cYuvaya ba\u015flay\u0131p sosyalle\u015fiyor mu; d\u0131\u015fa a\u00e7\u0131lacakt\u0131m ben de, yeni arkada\u015flar edinecek, yeni dostluklar kuracakt\u0131m.
\u201cSoyut d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye mi ba\u015flad\u0131; felsefeyle yeniden ha\u015f\u0131r ne\u015fir olacakt\u0131m k\u0131z\u0131mla birlikte, evreni, sonsuzlu\u011fu, yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131, anlam\u0131 sorgulayacakt\u0131m.
\u201c\u0130lkokulla birlikte yeni bir \u00f6\u011frenme disiplinine mi girdi; \u00f6zdisiplinimin sa\u011flamas\u0131n\u0131 yapacakt\u0131m ben de, profesyonel alanda kendimi geli\u015ftirmeye a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k verecek, daha \u00e7ok okuyup \u00f6\u011frenecek, yeni e\u011fitimler alacakt\u0131m.
\u201c\u00d6n ergenlikte s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131, belirlenmi\u015fliklerini, her \u015fey birden olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131 fark etti; ben de \u00e7arpacakt\u0131m ayn\u0131 duvara ve hevesimi yorgan\u0131ma g\u00f6re uzatmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenecektim, zaman\u0131ma ve kapasiteme g\u00f6re ilgi alanlar\u0131m\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlayacak, yatayda daral\u0131p dikey geli\u015fmeye odaklanacakt\u0131m.
\u201cCinselli\u011fi mi uyan\u0131yor; cinsellikle kurdu\u011fum ili\u015fkiyi g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irecektim ben de, sekse, a\u015fka, yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa dair at\u0131flar\u0131m\u0131 sadele\u015ftirecek, erotik d\u00fcnyamda bahar temizli\u011fi yapacakt\u0131m.
\u201cErgenlikle birlikte kad\u0131n kimli\u011fini mi in\u015fa ediyor; i\u00e7imdeki eril ve di\u015fil a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k merkezlerini yeniden d\u00fczenleyecek, ta\u015f\u0131y\u0131c\u0131 di\u015fil kolonlar\u0131m\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirecek, kad\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa kat \u00e7\u0131kacakt\u0131m ben de.”
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Yaz\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bitirirken ebeveynlikte kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 en \u00f6nemli yetilerden birinin de yard\u0131m isteyebilmek oldu\u011funu vurguluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Foto\u011fraf Mickey-o-Neil, Unsplash<\/a><\/pre>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cFark ettim ki \u00e7ocu\u011fum ne yaparsa ben de ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yapacakt\u0131m.“Bana dokunmaya, benim \u00fczerimden hayata g\u00fcvenmeye mi \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor; ben de ona ve \u00f6tekilere dokunmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015facak, kendime g\u00fcvenmenin, ona ve ba\u015fkalar\u0131na g\u00fcven vermenin yeni yollar\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131racakt\u0131m.\u201cDil mi \u00f6\u011freniyor; kendimi ifade meselemi tezgaha \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p ince ince i\u015fleyecek, yeni bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsel ve duygusal dil edinecektim.\u201cBana isyan edip benden ayr\u0131\u015fmaya, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":340,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[7],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=334"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":372,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/334\/revisions\/372"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/340"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=334"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=334"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cekirdekgunluk.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=334"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}